Cliffhangers

We all have heard that our 20s can be more or less confusing. 

What we did not expect to find out is that being in our twenties does not guarantee that we will have all our goals set and instantly accomplished. What we did not want to believe is that being an adult does not make us immune to heartbreaks and disappointments even if we are supposed to ''know better''.
We continue to make silly mistakes.
We can still fall for the narcissist and pathological liars type, because we have a lot yet to learn about us and other people.
I remember when I was sixteen thinking that drama and uncertainties will miraculously end once I graduate all those schools and universities. And I was wrong. Uncertainties - they never really disappear, I just need to learn a way not to be greatly challenged by them. Being older was anticipated to come with the reward of saying goodbye to naivety, but sadly or not, it does not. We still trust, and we still get hurt. The only thing that adds on to our age experience is that we get better in detecting lies and we build all those walls that are supposed to protect us. But they don't really, because walls get demolished, and hearts get broken.
We thought that adolescence will take away with it all the overlapping emotions and mixed feelings, but not quite. They persist to be there through adulthood as well.
At university lecture halls, neuroscientists comforted us that once we reach mid 20s we will have fully developed limbic system and pre-frontal cortex so we would be much better in making decisions and controlling our emotions. But is it that simple?

Adolescence was certainly messy, but it was full of dreams, some unrealistic, others already accomplished. Adulthood is another crazy roller-coaster of fighting the disappointment when all those dreams are not fulfilled yet and accepting that maybe few of them will never be, because it is not our path, or because it was not meant to be.
Acceptance is something we rarely needed to understand in our earlier years, but it is a lesson we need to learn more and more as we get older. We all want to have it all figured out and become those  fully structured individuals we were aspired to be, but it does not come with age or milestones, diplomas or jobs. It comes with small and great steps, with patience (that damn word I hate to hear and I haven't learnt how to use yet). It comes with realising what is best for us and what is not. And last but not the least it comes with listening to ourselves and paying attention to all those signals and flags that our hearts prefer to ignore so we could keep believing what we have is real, but sometimes we need to listen to these alarms. Emotions can blindfold us, and following our hearts is natural, but we need to know that our amazing brain is there for a reason, and maybe sometimes it has the right answer, even if we don't want to see it, because it may hurt.